Ever since various general authorities started drawing attention to the dating scene among Young Adults, I’ve taken an interest in the current status of dating, especially among LDS people, but also in general.I’ve polled my students about it occasionally and also my friends, single and not.it’s about social skills, learning how to communicate with different people, and figuring out what you want and what you like. Basically, a date in the regular world isn’t a job interview. I ended up with some great male friends from my dating days.If you find someone with whom you click, you can then gradually (or rapidly) move towards exclusiveness, depending on your/their desire. I can’t say that about the LDS world, and if it weren’t for my rather exceptional experience in other contexts, I doubt I would *have* any male LDS friends.All un-coupled people are constantly being assessed and assessing—it creates a strange highly-charged atmosphere where men and women can’t just organically get to know each other, which is the norm in non-LDS dating.It also increases the isolation of single people, and can exacerbate and further cripple the ability to relate to the opposite sex as anything other than a potential partner.He wonders if the lack of a serious significant other outside of an engagement is now relatively common.I quote him: “I’ve watched my siblings go through this and it’s really awful.
One friend observed that the experience of two relatives suggests that serious relationships among singles are drying up.
I believe this dynamic is also carried over and amplified by our segregation of the sexes even after marriage, and our odd institutional fear of men and women being incapable of real, non-sexual friendship.” This conversation took place between two married Mormon women friends: “I never dated anyone before ****** and only went on one or two dates before then.