Being single and not dating

You don't have to go see your significant other's favorite band play or go see a horror movie because your partner loves them, even though they scare the sh*t out of you. Part of being in a relationship is blending your life with your partner's.

Being single means living life for yourself, and cultivating your own interests. And sometimes, you might not be so into what your significant other's life is about.

It may sound bitter, but really, isn't it just logical not to want to deal?

I know I’ll always be in love with myself, so can’t that just be enough to satiate me?

But when you're in a relationship, somehow, that seems like a hurdle you actually have to navigate. Sometimes, I take for granted the fact that I can go to the bathroom, shower, and get ready with the door open when I'm not dating anyone. I don't have to worry about weirding or grossing anyone out.

I mean, a large component of this is that I don't have roommates, but I also don't have a boyfriend to worry about either.

There's nothing more liberating than being your true, authentic self within the comfort of your own home. When you're dating someone, you have to make compromises and open yourself to new hobbies that might not interest you.

I don’t feel like I’m missing out because I go to bed by myself.

We stay in bad relationships, relationships that bore us to tears, abusive relationships and unfulfilling relationships because we’re so petrified of the alternative: being single.

It’s the idea of not having someone that makes us settle.

So next time you're peeing with the door open, be grateful for your singleness.

It's little habits like that, however silly, that make me happy I'm alone.

My single girlfriends and I all just booked a trip to Copenhagen on a whim. And that made me realize that's something I couldn't really do, and wouldn't do, if I was in a relationship.


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